Cleaning is unfortunately something we have to do on a daily basis, (especially when you have kiddos and pets!). Everything needs to be cleaned, not daily for some chores, but others may require it. It’s rarely ever fun in my household, like I’m sure many others, but I’ve tried my very best, before being diagnosed with ADHD and started taking the medication, Adderall.
ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) Definition: One of the most common mental disorders affecting children. ADHD also affects many adults and not all symptoms show the same in every one.
Adderall is a medication prescribed and used to treat ADHD and narcolepsy. For more information on it, click on the link below.
Choosing a good doctor that will understand and listen to your concerns, can be very hard, but they are out there, I promise. You are the one who is looking for help, a boost for your health, and Doctors should be supportive of that treatment through Therapy or Medication, whichever y’all decide to try out. A psychologist visit will be referred in most cases (At least this has been the case for me and my husband). If you didn’t want to go that route, I’d like to provide plenty of Apps that you can try for yourself, along with other organizational tips, list-making ideas, and more soon!
I never understood why I couldn’t ever bring myself to just jump off the couch and clean up the mess my children had just made, or sweep up the cereal that had just been spilled. Or how about all the times where I had seen a mess (made by a pet or kid) and just walked right past it?
I can tell you that EVERY TIME I didn’t do something that I should’ve just done at that moment; I felt guilt. But could never have that energy, that urge to do these “awful” chores. All the while, they continued to pile up, what started as one task (which was already hard to find motivation for) turned into multiple objectives that my brain just could not organize. I didn’t understand how to get it the way I wanted it to be. I had no idea that I had ADHD, so how would I have known there was a reason for my lack of motivation to get the job done.
Some of the smallest of chores were such a hassle. Dishes, changing the litter box, picking trash up off the floor (due to not having the energy to even bend over), and even something as simple as brushing my hair. Speaking of which, I’ll be discussing hygiene and pets with ADHD at a later time, so if you struggle in these areas as I have, don’t worry!
Doing the dishes, sweeping, mopping, dusting (wasn’t even in the back of my mind until now), and many other chores; well you could forget about it. It was hard enough most days to even lift myself out of bed. As hard as it is for me to say; I did the bare minimum. Am I ashamed? Not today. Do I wish I could’ve done more? Of course!
Do people you know look at you funny because you can’t seem to muster enough energy to fold the damn clothes? Before knowing what ADHD is and whether or not you have it, it can be easy to accept/think that you might be lazy. Others around you seem to do it with ease, without having to put too much thought into it.
Family members and friends alike will ask you regularly, why the same pile of dishes have been in the sink for the past week; I know mine did. I tried explaining to them every time it came up, how I didn’t want nor try to be this way!
I would cry to my family expressing the way the house looked and how I couldn’t just get up and clean it. She couldn’t ever seem to understand how someone could just NOT clean their messes. I vividly remember my mom saying if I would hurry up and get it over with, then I wouldn’t have to worry about it ’til next time.
😂Easier said than done, Mom!😂
Because it was more than JUST doing the dishes, it was more than JUST washing the laundry. It was dishes and laundry. It was sweeping and mopping. It was getting off the freaking couch AND motivating myself enough to eat something! It had gotten to the point where; everywhere in the house had some type of clutter.
The kids’ school stuff being on the floor, little bitty pieces of paper that my daughter ripped, trash and mess from kids underneath the dinner table, my small table right beside “my spot” on the couch would get filled because of me not getting up and throwing away my trash.
And don’t even get me started on how much crap was UNDER the couch! Literally, a nightmare. Anyway are you getting the picture? Clutter just seemed unpreventable. I would sweep one minute, turn around and pick up some dirty laundry, turn back around, and I’d have to sweep, AGAIN! It always seemed like a never ending cycle.
I was overwhelmed emotionally to the fullest. My kids and husband could notice I was pretty stressed out. I could see how stressed they would be, in turn, but would be unable to do anything about it because of my own problems…
“Do one part of the house at a time.” they said. “Write down a list.” they said.
“Knock out two birds with one stone.” they said. Well, my brain would agree, but never really comprehend how to do that and where to even start!
So my brain would tell me, “Hey! Dammit, we gotta get to work on this house!” So, I’d go to get up, “Wait, what are we supposed to start with?” I’d ask myself. “Ooh! How about the dishes?” My brain would say, “Oh, wait, then we have to unload the clean ones… gotta get the dirty dishes out of the sink too… geez, then we gotta scrub the dirtier dishes…”
“Yeah, I’mma just sit back down…” “Good thinking!”
It might sound ridiculous to you, or you might just relate, but that entire scenario, and others just like it, have gone through my head (within a matter of seconds I might add) more times than I can think of…
Anyway, because I wasn’t diagnosed just yet, I had no idea why I was unable to focus long enough to find the resources and the tools, and steps, and tips for accomplishing all of the important tasks that had to be done! And without that diagnosis, I wouldn’t have been given the necessary (in my opinion) tools to manage my ADHD.
“It’s not that hard.” These words are all too familiar. I struggled every single day to do the smallest of tasks. And it seemed after I had done a few things, there were still 20 more things to do. The list felt never-ending and I strongly despised that feeling. All it ever did was lead to conflict within my own household, the place where you’re supposed to be the most comfortable!
Organization and cleaning does not come easily to us (especially when the mess and the clutter is already becoming overwhelming), so when we look at the clutter or dirtiness in our houses or vehicles, we see a mountain while everyone else sees a small hurdle. What looks like “taking out the trash” to a non-ADHD’er, sounds like “getting up, grabbing the trash, hauling the trash out the door (potentially in the heat of summer or cold of winter), carrying the trash to the appropriate receptacle, throwing the trash into said receptacle, and finally, making our way back inside to do whatever it was we were doing… beforehand…”
Medicine, don’t get me wrong, it helps tremendously. But like I said, if you don’t want to go that route; you can still try many ways to get organized!
- Start a Routine
- Find Apps to Help with Organization
- Set Short Term Daily Goals and appropriate Rewards for Accomplishing said Goals
- Simply do the Best that You Can and Know YOUR Limits
- Set up Calendars, Bulletin Boards, Whiteboards, Chalkboards, etc. in a Room with Heavy Household Traffic.
- Turn OFF TV, but turn ON MUSIC; Minimize Distractions
- Make Lists as Often as You Can; Focus on ONE Item on said List at a Time
Always remember to give yourself credit. For us Adhd-ers, our brains believe most things we “accomplish” are not enough. Especially if it barely made a dent in your chores. Let’s try to break that way of thinking. ANY step forward in your cleaning process or whatever else you’re doing is STILL a step FORWARD even when it feels like you’re being pushed backwards. Give yourself some type of credit or reward for what YOU accomplished today!
I personally like to give myself rewards such as sweets, budget-friendly shopping sprees, renting a movie, and of course, for those of us who partake in any “420-friendly activities”, a freshly packed bowl is always a fun reward! These are just some of the rewards I like to bestow upon myself for meeting the goals that I had planned for any given day.
Everyone is different, finding what fulfills YOUR “accomplishment” needs is a personal experience for each and every one of us.
Try to go easy on yourself, and understand your capacity for setting and accomplishing daily goals, and always be sure not to overindulge in the treats that you give yourself, otherwise you risk losing the progress on forming good habits in your routine, ESPECIALLY when the task at hand has yet to be completed!
AND REMEMBER: We All are Living One Day at a Time.